Staying Positive During Tough Times
Posted on March 29, 2010
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Today we are facing very tough and challenging times in many different areas in life, financially, physically and emotionally. Many people are loosing their homes, their investment, their jobs and retirement. Millions of people are facing bankruptcy, foreclosure, many companies are going out of business.
We also have a huge health crises, diseases are rising, obesity, diabetes, heart disease, cancer… most people are living very unhealthy lifestyle, full of stress, lots of junk food, fast food, coffee, sugar, soda, smoking… and of course we depend on medications and drugs as the answer for all our problems, which creating more problems in our health and our life.
Depression and fear is everywhere today, it is in almost every home, fear of loosing jobs, fair of loosing the house, the car, the business, the income… on the top of all this we have wars and negative news all around us.Â
So how can we deal with all of this? and how can we stay positive during these tough times?
I believe it has to start within, from the inside out. It all start in the brain. We all have questions we always ask ourselves, all the time, and our brain is always coming up with answers for these questions, because that is itâs job, finding answers for your questions and supporting you. Some people ask questions like, why is this happening to me? What is wrong with me? Why am I always doing this? or getting this result? or having this kind of person in my life? or not getting what I want? All these are negative questions, and your brain will find answers for it. Itâs usually negative answers, which will make you feel worth and more depressed.
During tough times, we should ask ourselves positive question, like what is the meaning of this? What can I learn from this situation? or from this bad thing that happened? How can I make it better? How can I be a better person? What do I need to do to get the result I want? These are much better question, it will empower you and will make your brain work and find positive answers, which will help you solve the problem and expand your knowledge, and even find opportunity in these tough times.
If you are not feeling good right now or going throw some tough times financially, physically or emotionally, don’t react. Take control of the situation, try to ask yourself some good questions and have a positive conversation with yourself. I know it sounds weird, but trust me it works, weird people solve many problems in our world.
Here is how you can do this:
- Take few deep breaths, till your body and your mind are relaxed.
- Write down what is in your mind.
- Brake that problem or challenge down into small pieces.
- Ask few positive questions for every piece.
- Write down the positive answers.
- Create a plan.
- Take action.Â
Just like everything in life, this could be difficult in the beginning, and you may not see the result you want right away. But it is all part of the game, with some mind training and practice, you will be full of positive energy and positive attitude towards everything in your life, and nothing will stop you.
To train your brain to always think positive and react in a positive way, you need to practice asking yourself some positive questions. Start your day with these questions and answer it every morning:
- What am I happy about today?Â
- What am I excited about today?
- What could I do today to feel more happy and excited?
- What am I grateful for in my life?Â
- What could I do to feel more grateful?
- What am I proud of today?Â
- What am I enjoying most in my life?
- What do I love?Â
- Who do I love?Â
- Who loves me?
- What am I committed to today?
- What can I give or share today?
- What can I do today to connect with Allah?
- What can I do today to connect with my family?
- What can I do today to connect with people?
- What can I do today to make it a successful day?
- What can I do today to be healthy and take care of my body?
- What can I do today to a better muslim and a better person?
In the evening, answer these questions before you go to sleep.
- What have I given today?
- What have I learned today?
- What did I accomplish today?
- What are the good moment I had today?
- What did I do wrong today? how can I fix it?
- How can I make tomorrow a better day?
You should also make a list of all the blessings you have in your life, your family, your kids, friends, people, things, money, cars, house, business, job… Make a list of everything and everyone in your life you are grateful for, even little things like a bed to sleep on, a nice meal, clean water⦠Remember that many people donât even have a cup of clean water to drink or a piece of bread to eat. So I am sure you will find so many things in your life, that you should be very grateful for.
We can also heal our problems by giving and doing something good for others. The best way and fastest way that I know of to feel happy and positive is to do what Allah our creator did, GIVE. I personally believe that giving is the secret of this life, the more you give the more you get, that simple. What makes this very exciting is it surprises you, you donât get what you want or your rewards right away, it always come when and where you donât expect it. So when you give donât expect anything in return, just do it and believe that when you are good to others, you are best to yourself.Â
You don’t have to wait till you are able to give huge things, give something today, right now, no matter how small it is, a smile, hug, respect, love, advice, gift, book, old cloths, some food, help or comfort someone or just make someone feel good⦠Make it a habit to give something everyday of you life, and see how much your life will change in a positive way!
Finally, Here are some techniques to help you calm yourself down and feel positive and happy in any situation:
- Count numbers, such as counting down from 50 to 1.
- Repeat a word or phrase, such as a prayer or (Tesbeeh) remembering of Allah.
- Listen to Qurâan.
- Smile and relaxing your body.
- Go for a walk or run, get out into a different environment.
- Stretch your body.
- Close your eyes and breathe deeply.
- Write your feelings.
- Watch some comedy.Â
- Give or do something good for someone, especially if it’s for someone you don’t even know!
Be positive, enjoy life, do good, and always expect the good, it is always there, you just need to look for it!
- Badr Bakry
www.mysabil.com
Badr Bakry
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How do you stay positive during these tough times?
My husband and I are expecting our first baby in a few weeks after many years of trying. I am happy, but at the same time wish other things were going better. My husband may lose his job soon and then we won’t know what to do. I work as well, but it’s not enough to cover for expenses. My job is not going so great. I would’ve rather have me lose my job than him. These tough economic times are really depressing. I just hope everything turns out all right.
It’s a stressful time to have a baby, but I find comfort in knowing that there’s always a way to make things work. I’m lucky to have family and friends as a support group if anything were to happen to our jobs/home/etc.
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Well, I feel that way too sometimes. My hubby is the only income we have and its not the best money, he is also a student finishing up his ER rotations and is never home to help with our 15 month old, on top of that I am having our second baby Saturday. Times are tough for everyone though and you just have to move past it, suck it up and move along. Everyone is going through these rough times but we will all come out of it. Stay strong and be happy, your little one will be here soon!
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I know that this not comforting but people say if you ever wait to have a child when you can financially afford it you will never have one. Remember that the key word is he may not that he will. Focus on having a happy and healthy baby. You are having your wish come true of having a baby focus on that. Your husband can start looking for a new job but remember temp agencies are always an option and during tough economical times most companies turn to temp agencies.
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NPR said temp agencies are starting to see a demand from companies again.
The only thing you can really do is trust that things will work out. If you have a close family, sometimes that might be the thing to lean on. If you have a really strong religion, use that for strength. Things always end up working out, as you are not uneducated and/or homeless. You might have to cut somethings out and your hubby might have to take an intermediate job, just to bring in some money…but you will make it through and learn something for the hardship. That is the thing about hard times, they always teach us a lesson. I have had many hard times, none of which involved society or money…but they certainly worked out…and mostly for the better! So believe that something better is planned and hang on for the ride. Focus on your little one
I am due on Halloween and am so freaking excited I can barely stand it!!
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just focus on the fact your having a little bundle of joy that took you so long to get, and that will make you feel alot better. thats what i would do anyway
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30 weeks n 3 days preg wiv lil girl EDD 12/12
well my husband and i are expecting our first baby too. and we have had our fair share of trails and tribulations.
my husband is in the military so its hard to lose your job.you have to do something wrong to lose it. but my husband is young. so as i. so he still wants to be wild. but long story short we thought he was going to lose is job and be discharged, and i dont work my self. im only a highschool graduate 18 years old, and no one wants to higher me b/c im prego.
we barely make enough for us but some how we make it. just keep your head up and stay positive, i know its hard and trust me there will be lots of tears and yelling about money spending and worrys. you just have to love each other through this and be happy that your finally having your baby
things dont always come out as planned but everything will work out fine.
i hope and wish you the best for your new family.
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The way I deal with these tough economic times is not to worry about anything that isn’t reality. In other words, don’t worry about what you’re going to do if your husband loses his job until he loses his job. Worrying early only adds stress to you and stress isn’t good for your pregnancy. You never know, he may keep his job and then you will have spent all this time worrying over nothing. i always tell my husband we will do the best we can with what we have. We have our priorities (mortgage, oil, food, baby items, car to get back and forth to work, then credit cards or unsecured debts). If one of us were to lose our job I know we could pay the necessities on the other’s income (we did the math). If we were in this situation and the creditors started calling I’d just simply tell them I had to decide between paying the mortgage or paying our credit card and asking them which one do they think won? You can only pay what you have money to pay and as long as you are able to pay your necessities don’t worry about the luxuries. They will come back when these economic times change. And besides, even if your husband lost his job that doesn’t mean he won’t ever get another one. He might only be unemployed a very short amount of time so stop worrying about something that may or may not happen. Only worry about it if it does happen.
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I’m sorry to hear that things are tough right now, here is a link to an article that I hope will help.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2189089/good_habits_and_positive_thinking_during.html
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http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2189089/good_habits_and_positive_thinking_during.html